Dynamic and authentic counsellor Jennifer Vauthrin, takes us into her world by sharing a glimpse of her anxiety filled life and how she let her self to be led to a path of healing and discovery. Staying isolated was a big part of her life because it was “safe”, eventually she discovered that there was more to life and made a choice to step out of her shell and face her fear and anxiety. She rebounded with great success becoming a multi-faceted entrepreneur and finding her gifts as a healer, eventually becoming a counsellor when she helps a wide range of channels from addiction to anxiety. Join us as she shares some of the ways she broke from the anxiety and how to mange it.
About the Guest:
Jennifer has been a counsellor for over 20 years helping people to love their lives. She experienced her own limitations and found herself playing small and staying stuck. Once she decided to make a change she emerged brilliantly by finding tools that could quickly and effectively move her to a more fulfilled life.
In her time working with clients, she found that most people want happiness, to be heard, health, trust, career, passion, stability, enthusiasm for life and love but that at the same time were settling for a life that was sub par.
Finding the tools that work for each individual, specific to each beautiful individual self, is where Jennifer comes in. Since each individual is unique with their own set of wiring, the tools that work for one will not necessarily fit for others. This is why Jennifer customizes her approach with each person as she helps them to unlearn and reprogram all of the conditioning that puts people into a box, where there is little oxygen or room to grow.
Her mission is to help others break through the fear and to FULLY live. To enable a sense of freedom, joy, passion for living.
About the Host:
DeeAnne Riendeau is a thought leader in spiritual and business development who’s mission is to elevate how we think and live. Experiencing a life of chronic illness, and 2 near death experiences, DeeAnne rebounded with 20 years of health education and a diverse health career.
She is known as the modern day Willy Wonka for giving away her company Your Holistic Earth, which is the first holistic health care system of its kind. She is currently the owner of Rose Hope International, in which she helps those who are seeking more joy, love, freedom, and a deeper meaning in life using your souls library also known as the Akashic Records.
She has spoken at Harvard University, appeared on Shaw TV, Global Television, and CTV and has been recognized as a visionary and business leader having been nominated for numerous awards including Alberta Business of Distinction. Along with being an entrepreneur, DeeAnne is a mom of 2 bright kids, publisher, popular speaker and international bestselling author who uses her heart and her head to guide others to create their best life.
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We have another great episode in store for you. And today our guest is the lovely Jennifer Vauthrin, Jennifer has been a counselor for over 20 years helping people to love their lives. she experienced her own limitations in life and found herself playing small and staying stuck. Once she decided to make a change, she was able to emerge brilliantly by finding tools that could quickly and effectively move her to a more fulfilled life. Over her time working with clients, she found that most people wanted happiness. Most people wanted to be heard they wanted health, they wanted career, they wanted passion. And they wanted enthusiasm for life, but they were living a life that was subpar. Now Jennifer finds the tools that work for each individual specific to their needs. This is where she comes in. Since each individual is unique with their own set of wiring, the tools that work for one will not necessarily work for the others. And this is why Jennifer customizes her approach with each person, as she helps them to unlearn and reprogram all of the conditioning that puts people into a box where there is little oxygen or room to grow. Her mission is to help others break through the fear and to fully live to enable that sense of freedom, joy and passion for living. I am so excited. Can't wait to get into this. And I hope you leave today's conversation feeling that passion for life too.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Hello, we are back again. And Jennifer is here with me. I am so happy you're here. Jennifer, thank you so much for joining us today.Jennifer Vauthrin:
Thank you, teacher for having me. I really appreciate it.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Well, I want to start off by just kind of opening things up, as I typically do with these interviews. You know, I love hearing people's stories. And I want to know what led you to the work that you're doing today? What was the backstory? What was your experience that brought you here?Jennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, oh, Dan, where do I start? Let's see. Okay. You know, I think I had a childhood that just as many of us do, everybody has something, you know, not to minimize anything. But everything affects everybody individually. So there was bullying, I was a heavier set gal I didn't really fit in I had anxiety, a huge anxiety I dropped out of school. My mum and dad separated when I was like four. So the anxiety kind of took over my life I lost sort of. I mean, I didn't leave the house for a long period of time. So my social life was just there wasn't one. And then when I did start to socialize, I had such low self esteem that I socialized with many people that were and listen, there's no judgment on it. We're all the same color blood let me make that 100% Clear. And I am so grateful and so thankful the and for my experiences in life because I wouldn't be the counselor I am today with those experiences. So what happened was I I guess misery loves company, right? So I gravitated towards people who would maybe? How? I don't know, I don't really know how to say this. I guess just saying it people who just loved me for who I was. And in my dad's eyes if you didn't have the means, you know, you weren't all that and to me, it just didn't matter. I felt love whether, you know, people were dealing drugs or going to the opera. I didn't you know, I just didn't care. Yeah. And so my friends became people who were partiers and things like that. And I wasn't a drinker. I didn't do drugs. I you know, I smoked cigarettes, but that was my it's not because I didn't want to believe me. If I could have I would have but because of the anxiety. Yeah, I wasn't able to. Ah ha ha ha. So then I went in and I started doing a whole bunch of businesses. I had a consignment business. I taught Red Cross babysitting when I was you know, I mean, I did. I went to move to seminar move. Built Homes, I had convenience stores I bought and sold houses. I've just been blessed with so many things in my life. But during that time, I saw a lot of things happen in all different worlds. Many like, like I said, whether you're at the yacht club, or hanging out in a clubhouse somewhere, yeah. Do you know what I mean? So and, again, I can't stress this enough, we're all the same color blood just because your choices are over here. And your choices are over there. Believe it or not, they're very similar work worlds. So when you come into counseling, which I chose to do, I started my education to be a counselor when I was 18. And it took some time. And then I worked with kids that were at probation. just struggling. And I really found my, my niche there, I really found that I fit because I could understand. And as I moved on, over the time, I moved back to white rock. I mean, this is now my kids are like I had kids. And so now they would be I think they were 11 and 13, when we moved back Well, when I moved back with them. And then I did my masters, and got my master's degree. And but you know, when people come to me now, and they say, oh, I want to be a counselor, I'm like, Look, a lot of us aren't recognized unless you have your master's. And that takes a long time. And a lot of being a counselor is having life experience. So if you're not having a lot of referrals, or business or things like that, don't beat yourself up about it. It's just a work in progress. And when people say to you, what's your niche? Well, here's my example. If I'm working with somebody who is an addict, let's say or relationship, but let's start with an addict. And we're all addicts to some degree, right? I mean, whether you're a workaholic or an alcoholic, or a gambler or whatever it is programmed. Yes, yeah. So yeah, I mean, so many different things that we could talk about. And, but if you have, let's just say an addiction, and you're in a relationship, or the family, everybody's affected by that addiction, and that leads to mental health. So then you have your anxiety and depression and so forth, and so on frustration, anger, and guilt. Yeah, you know, and they all come into one. So what I like to do is I like to, I have this big board, this big whiteboard, and I put a circle, kind of around, and I put, let's say it was me, Jen, in the middle. Yeah. And then I would have my mom, my dad, my kids, my dogs, my everything. That's kind of work, whatever, whatever's in my life. Yeah. Anyways, moving forward, just our life experiences that go on go on that board. And then that's when people have the aha moment. So for me, it's, it's kind of that I shoot myself in the foot a lot of times, because when I can do that in one session, and when you have that aha moment, not to say I'm brilliant or anything like that. There's plenty of counselors and plenty of people out there that are amazing at what they do. So but my thing is that, and so when I draw it out, people go. Oh, my goodness, yes, that's it. Right? Yeah. And then they're good. It's like, how have that doesn't? Yeah, it's sorry.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Because it's like, it's like, all of a sudden, they get a blind spot before is now brought to the surface. And they can say, oh, my gosh, now this makes sense. Now I can have deeper compassion for myself, and thus begin that healing.Jennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, so true. Yeah. So true. The funny funny, I just have to share this. The last. I had a client just little while ago, and we did the board. And she just wasn't really happy with her life. And I don't know she'd probably what 28 I think she was 28. And so she then was talking about she had been in a relationship for five years, monogamous, all of that. And then all of a sudden, she decided she wanted to have an open relationship. But long story short, we went through the whole thing, and she was on this app dating app. And then she was playing this kind of reality game on her show, where you can build your own characters. Now how many of us, I mean, I've played World of Warcraft. I have totally leveled up my character to you know, you get you get this high from it. And so Instead of living the real life, you're depressed in your real life, but yet you're having this high moment because you can control everything in this game. Yes. And I can tell you so much more about that. But so yeah, that's, that's kind of what how I ended up. Just my life experiences led me to where I am now, being the counselor that I am,DeeAnne Riendeau:
I love that you shared some of the vulnerable pieces of your story, you know, from, you know, being being bullied and feeling like you don't fit in with the rest of the crowd. Yeah, finding a crowd that, you know, we might perceive as maybe low vibration like partier drinking, you know, other people that also are bad. And that's again, that's not a judgement, it's just an awareness. And what is interesting for me in what you said, you said, because of the anxiety, I couldn't fall into that into that stuff, whether it was drugs or drinking because of the anxiety. So it with that in mind, would you say that anxiety was a friend in that experience for you? Do you do you see that now? For sure, then?Jennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, yeah. Oh, oh, one. And the thing with anxiety? Thank you for asking that. That's a great question. The thing with anxiety, most people who are in schools, so if you have a child that is in school, they they're meant to fit in this box. And I think that's where a lot of our mental health issues come from. Because we can't express our freedom, our minds, we're not allowed to doodle. We're not allowed to do this that in the next thing. So we feel so suppressed in everything and then you've got things going on at home and then you've got things going on with friends and then you feel like you don't fit and and it's just like, Oh, you just want to it's you just want to explode. But you can't you don't know how, again, mental health addiction, drugs, alcohol. So for me, it truly was a blessing even though it felt like a jail sentence.DeeAnne Riendeau:
I couldn't go do like I was afraid to leave the house. Yeah, I didn't fit in anywhere. I felt I'd and that took forever. I mean, even even up until when I got married, and I, my I remember my, my husband now was would drive me over the patella bridge. Okay, we can do it, we can do it. No, just stop, stop. I remember being going through the tunnel and backing up the on ramp. I mean, I did like the things I would do to avoid and the things. So I would be let's just say with friends and I would do things that well, what if we do this instead of this? And then finally I just shut down? I was just like, No, and it took me years to get over that and be confident in who I am now. Yeah. So if I had have had the explanation of the anxiety, depression, anger, frustration and hormones, I'm sure I was in perimenopause in my 20s I'm sure I was. And there's not enough knowledge now about menopause perimenopause hormones, men and women, not just women, men and women. Yeah, adrenals cortisol levels, all of these that your iron when you're tired, you're not sleeping. There's all of these things add up. And so if you can you've you've really, I prefer going to naturopath that I have a great doctor now, but before I didn't have anybody that really understood. So of course, it's well here's this medication try this. Well, here's that try that. Well, we know this isn't going to work. So you know, and when you have pregnancy tubes tied for men, it's the roller coaster ride. It's you know, poor men, they don't know whether they're coming or going or backwards or forwards because they don't know where the women are in their lives. And we don't either to be fair, and to be honest. So now we have relationships that are just you start out best friends and you end up enemies. Yeah, we stopped dating. We the kids, the finances, all of these things come in. And it's like if you ask somebody who are you? They're like, I don't know. I don't know who I am. BecauseDeeAnne Riendeau:
it's connection I think that is lost right connection with self and connection with the outer world as well. And you know, you talked about the video game of like, Oh yeah, you get to escape into this video and you get to build up this person in his whole new life. So we're sure to be moved into a false reality. II, because we haven't been given the support to love and live in our own reality. And I want to keep adding to this because I think this is so important, you know, this idea of anxiety, and I want to speak about even over COVID, what happened because I was going out to events and driving all over the place and traveling and doing all these things. COVID hit, of course, shut it down. I have so much anxiety driving in the downtown city, I have so much anxiety, thinking about booking trips and flying anywhere. So I'm curious to know if you've seen that uptick in people, because I think it's something that we haven't really talked about really loudly yet. But the impact that that had on us, because we got put in the box in that time, really intensely didn't wait indefinitely. It's the same idea, but in a different capacity. Right? You know, the putting the kids in the box and saying this is how you have to behave. And this is how you must act. And this is how you have to show up otherwise you're not normal, or whatever the judgment is there. And we have the same thing happened over COVID. So it's like this retriggering I think for a lot of people. So have you noticed an uptick in anxiety since COVID? happened? Do you find that people are a bit more anxious? Or were you already seeing a lot of anxious clients at that time?Jennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, that is a brilliant question. Really? I see it more in use than I do in adults. Yeah. I think adults. For me, I'll use me, just for instance, now that was a huge thing for me, because I had multiple businesses. And I, I had never, I mean, I was type A personality. Go Go, go, go, go, go, go go. And then to have to sit in my own house and not see anybody not do anything. I hear you. Oh my god, I hear you. But the one thing that I truly, I hope everybody else grabbed from that. And I'll get back to your question here. But for me, it was I really got to enjoy and find out who I was.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Yes. Yeah, right. Oh, yeah. So many people. Oh, good. Yeah, I think so many I've seen people have wonderful, beautiful awaken a new snapshot of what they want their life to look like. So in so many ways, it was a tremendous experience, I the shift,Jennifer Vauthrin:
it was a shift.DeeAnne Riendeau:
And I think if we're choosing to receive the value in it, then we get to receive the value in it. Right. That being said, unfortunately, it still doesn't take away from this anxiety now, because again, we went into the safety security space, and now we're having to stretch again. And you know this really well, because at one point you didn't have any friends you didn't go out, then you stretch yourself in a big way went probably the opposite end of the spectrum, starting businesses getting social. So you really broke through that. AndJennifer Vauthrin:
oh, no, life has changed. Oh, hold on. Oh, definitely. Oh, so let me maybe I said that wrong. So when I had the businesses, I was out, I was social, but I was working. I was a workaholic. Right? Did you do digital? You were in tunnel vision? Yeah. 100%. So then I had to really look at myself. And so if you're in a relationship, like my kids still live at home, they're older, but they still they want they can sweets, and this that and the next thing but so I had people around me. Yeah. Although people that didn't have people around them or had families around them, like in their same space. Yes. That's because of course, if we go back to the relationship thing, and you lose your best friend who wants to be in a house with screaming kids or argumentative kids or a partner that is not your best friend anymore, you know, ya know, anybody that can survive that, right? You're gonna survive your marriage for the rest of your life. I you know, either way, although, what I think the thing is, is when everybody was so excited, I was hoping and praying that people would slow down. I was hoping that I would and I have I have slowed down to Yeah, I enjoy. Okay, it's the end of the day. I'm going to rest I'm going to do my yoga Pilates, paddleboard swim, I don't care walk by dogs, whatever it is. I do find that people are hitting it hard though. They're hitting it hard. Yeah, because During that time, they either really discovered who they were, or wanted to discover who they were. Or their lives went really downhill. Yeah. Yeah. And that is where I'm feeling people now are shifting and wanting to know who they are. Yeah. When I say that, that brings me not only to the anxiety part, I find a lot of use kids. So many kids now are put on antidepressants. I like there's 1011 12 year olds that are on medications for anxiety, depression, I'm just like, good gracious, like, come on. There's other ways there's breathing yoga, I'm so happy to see that they're incorporating that into schools. Now, moving forward, you come up and you you know, this is another thing that I've really given a lot of thought to were the anxiety for parents, for youth, for families, in general. Again, addiction, everything, but when you have somebody who is going into more, not knowing if they're bisexual, if they're, you know, that a nice, yes, it's a huge shift. So this is my brand or not brand. But this is my thought, when and women have the right to have their say, to work to be 5050. But I think at some point, we took it a little too far. This is my thought. And in saying that, because now men don't know whether to open the car door. Whether to say good morning, darling, or reach over and give you a hug because so many of us are like Don't catch me, I got it. I can cut the lawn on my own.DeeAnne Riendeau:
this independentJennifer Vauthrin:
right independent, but yet we yearn to be held and touched and taught to. And but now we have that anger and resentment. So bring it back to the use the kids. They're like, Well, what role? Because I see daddy doing mommy's jobs and mommy doing daddy's jobs. And so now, a lot of my clients are those that are trying to figure out. Yeah, do I want to be with a man? Do I want to be with a woman? Do I want to be with both? If I hear open relationship one more time, and I'm all for it. Hey, whatever works for you? I better I will support you 100%. Because you know what? I've got my quirks too. You know? Yeah. But it's a very confusing world at this time. Yeah. So having it I mean, I think at this moment, morally, if we can just believe in ourselves and know that that is a journey and know that is going to take you somewhere. And here. Here's another thing where you talk about anxiety. There's so many people out there, my son was in a mountain bike accident in 2012. I got a phone call from Whistler hospital saying we don't think your son's going to make it. But we're going to airlift him to VGA, well, my whole world changed. That was my eldest son. My youngest son was turning 17, two days after this. And so he was my eldest was in a coma for nine days. They didn't they tried to take him out. They couldn't then waking up, didn't know how to eat. Talk was I didn't know who I was, didn't know who he was, didn't know where he was. What happened? Nothing. So then we had four suicide attempts. And it's been 10 years. So there's so many families out there that are so lost. Yeah, so lost. With the caregivers. We talked about dementia, we talked about all of those things, there's not enough support. And so again, as for counselors out there, as you shift and you move through your career, you are going to find that you're going to add to your niche. So when somebody says I'll bring it back to that, so he says, Oh, you specialize in anxiety. Well, that's great. But are you able to help any? Anybody else? Is that Yeah, the family? Are you able to help the family? Or is it just the anxiety? So if you move forward after that, my dad dementia having to deal that's, that's crazy. You know, he's now passed away, but we were like, tight. I mean, we didn't get along at all, but we were tight. I was more like his wife than because he Oh, my God. Anyway, so but that's life, you know, so, but the things and that's another thing when you're in a relationship You're up and you've got all these things to deal with. And then moving forward, in 2021, I hit a breaking into my house and I was walloped over the head with a gun. And I, I then knew what it was like to have a brain injury because I ended up in the hospital for a while. So now, it's, and the whole reason I bring that up, it's because that's anxiety, that's depression. That's anger for everything. And there's, and there's, you know, so the other thing I would say to counselors or anybody out there that wants to go into counseling and be self employed, is make sure you have a plan. Make sure you have your disability, make sure you have your critical life insurance that you know, you're dead, you're gone. Yeah. Okay, if you want to look after your family, that's great. But for now, look at the critical for when you're alive. Look at the disability because I didn't have anything. I didn't have anything when Tyson had his oxygen. I didn't have anything when I thought I did. I thought I did. But I wasn't paying attention because I was so busy. Yeah, yep. So protect yourselves, protect yourselves. So that your family is protected. Make sure like I've now done my power of attorney, my son's my power of attorney. He's also on all my bank accounts, just like I did with dad. Yeah, he, when he was to the dimension, all that I put all of his money into my bank accounts, even though he thought I had stolen his money and tried to explain that anyway. So counselors, people who are thinking about counseling, I say coaching is one of the best ways social worker, you're still it's less time in school, for the most part. Yeah. And there's so many ways of helping people. Make sure you're getting into it for the right reasons and not enabling because that codependent thing where we all like to enable everybody and not look at ourselves. That's huge. Yeah, huge. I mean, look at you and what you do, I mean, you're just a blessing to so many people, you cut out the middle person. It's not just about talking or doing EMDR or doing whatever therapy you want to do. You're right there, you know, and you nail it. You're so good at what you do. I'm so blessed to have met you. And you know, you've answered so many of my questions to move forward in my life. And sometimes that's what we need. Yeah, we need that part. Yeah. And people spend 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of dollars looking when all they have to do is take out that whiteboard and draw pictures.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Yes. Right. Connect the dots, so to speak, you know,Jennifer Vauthrin:
connect the dots. Exactly. Yeah.DeeAnne Riendeau:
So you know, I love that you share that about entrepreneurs and giving yourself some protection and that too, because a lot of entrepreneurs they overlook that. And then I knew a client she actually had fallen in the ice and broke both her wrists. Oh, she was a self employed healer. Yes. And she did not work. So she had to rent out her whole house. She lived under the stairs in the basement that had to do you. I mean, there's always ways to survive of course, but it gives you peace of mind and it actually reduces anxiety when you have those protection pieces in place. So I think that's really important. Here's what I want to ask you Jennifer. Yeah. How did you go from being so anxious to get stepping into running businesses and having a successful career because I think a lot of people feel so held hostage by their anxiety and I'm curious to know what were your big pieces there so that we can help those people listening that are like, Oh my god, yeah, but so anxious. What What would you say are the kind of the main things there for you, or first,Jennifer Vauthrin:
this is my, this is my passion. This is my passion. Okay. My passion is getting people out of that. And it wasn't easy. I'm not gonna lie it was hell. But first and foremost, find somebody that you can really let loose with. Like really? If you want to swear if you want to dance if you want to like comedies your thing find a comedy therapist. Yeah. Find you know, life doesn't have to be so damn serious all the time. Yeah, wearing is a sign of intelligence. I don't care what anybody says. Because I swear like a trucker. I fucking knew it. Ya know, when we're in counseling, it's like, I have my clients and they're like, fuck, and they're oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm like, No, fuck now I can swear all I want great. Yeah, you know, it's it's so good. Like, we're not you know, like, we're human just to get to it. So getting back to your question I thinkDeeAnne Riendeau:
I'll find a person that you feel safe with that you can share with that you can have some fun with.Jennifer Vauthrin:
But don't be afraid of failing. You know, I had a house cleaning business as well as my counseling business as well as every other business and I loved my house cleaning business, loved it, love the people that I've got to see every day for multiple, I would go leave here at eight o'clock in the morning. And I would go in scrub toilets. And then I would race home, change my attire, get into my counseling gear. And even if I was still in my sweats, nobody cared. Yeah, you're not like, I'm just as human as anybody else. I'm no better than anybody else. Like, this isn't a facade. SoDeeAnne Riendeau:
I love that. Because I think that there's this perception that we can't be fully authentic. And that, right, like, I gotta be perfect. I want you to see my vulnerable side, too, because it's safe with me? Right?Jennifer Vauthrin:
We have almost this standard that still exists out there of like, Thai and, you know, all proper, it's like, who feels safe to just shoot the shit in that? Right? It does.Jennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, God, you nailed it. You nailed it be you be free, at least, you know. And the one thing is, is there's I always win. So here of getting back to your question when I find or when people find me, and they say I have this and that, but I really can't afford a lot. Or even if they don't say that. I will say do you have an EAP program, which is where your employer has coverage for you. Yeah, so they nothing comes out of their pocket? Do you have workers comp? Because I'm covered by all of these things? Try and find somebody like that will work with you? Do they have a sliding scale? Do they have? Are they covered with ICBC?DeeAnne Riendeau:
Like my Denver other insurance program? Yeah, yeah,Jennifer Vauthrin:
they're medical, extended medical. It's really tough for people in the States. I work with people in the States, but there's always a way. There's always a way. Never limit yourself. And, you know, oftentimes, for me, it was allowing myself to grow. Yeah, that's the key. Don't just because you're married and have 20 kids and you're you feel like you're stuck in this career. You're not you're never stuck. That's bullshit. Yeah, you have a choice. Oh, I gotta pay the bills. And I've got to do this. And I've got to do that. No, don't fucking hand me that. Yeah. Because I will find a way for you. If you meant to write a book, be a coach, your experiences in life? Start doing podcasts, start doing YouTube videos, get an income coming in from YouTube videos, or whatever it looks like for you. I will find that for you. Or with you. Yeah, because I know you have it in you. Love it. And not for me. If somebody had said that to me. Oh, God, I tell you that I would probably be traveling the world right now. Enjoying my life? You know, because we put too many limitations on ourselves. And I think that's really crucial that we understand that. open that box open and open the damn box. Oh, great. Yes. Reach out to like, even if it's for free consultations from 100 different counselors, I don't care how you do it, or Yeah, coaches or whatever, they have free things all the time. Mine all the time, you know, like, all the timeDeeAnne Riendeau:
versus out there too. You know, I love that just opened the box to allow for that growth in that expansion.Jennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, huge. They just Yeah.DeeAnne Riendeau:
The other thing that I want to bring to the surface too, is like how you were able to kind of alchemize that anxiety. So you were able to take that anxiety and allow yourself you found your people you got some support that you needed. You stepped outside of the box, obviously in a really big way. Yeah. And I believe that even just us honoring that anxiety instead of looking at anxiety as this like awful, you know, monster which I think many of us do, right? We'veJennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, it's horrible. It will contain you in a box forever if you let itDeeAnne Riendeau:
let it but we have a choice like you said and we have an opportunity to befriend the anxiety. So alchemize that energy can we look at that energy and say okay, anxiety, see you're here. Not happy you're here. What do you need to show me? What do I really need to know? Right?Jennifer Vauthrin:
So good. So good. So good.DeeAnne Riendeau:
That is one of the tools that I bring to the surface for any low vibration energy is can we befriend it? Can we see that it's teaching us something or showing us something that we didn't see before?Jennifer Vauthrin:
Well, first of all, first of all, I think people really have which took me a very long time to realize that breath, breath work is you huge. Oh, my God, huge, huge if I that was a huge shift for me. When I was in a car accident 2017 I started seeing physio I started doing Pilates. That was the first time I like well after I mean, it was years after because I was in pain. But my physiotherapist said to me, how do you breathe? I was like, What do you mean? How do I breathe? I breathe through my nose. The fuck do you want for me? What is this Canon camera around here somewhere? I don't know. Anyways, so but what I found was I was breathing ah, and tensing my shoulders and my neck all the time. So I was tight. And so when I learned there's a two minute belly breathing, YouTube video, love it. Two minutes. If you go to YouTube, and you find that just do it, breathe with your belly. Expand it like you're 10 months pregnant, you know, or as much air as you can get in let it go right through your back like you're just exhaling shit out your back all those toxins, everything. Find a tree. I know this is really odd. But I remember a friend of mine I was having a meltdown with I was shit day as walking the dogs and she's like, I want you to find a tree. I'm like, Are you for real? She's like, Yeah, I want you to find a tree. I'm like, Do you know where I am? I'm in public. There's people around me all over the place sit on a chair. So I go and find this tree. She says I want you to put your back towards the tree. I'm like, I'm not doing that. Like there is no way I'm doing so anyways. I can run faster scared than she can mad but I got against that tree. So I'm on the tree. She says Now I want you to just close your eyes and I want you to just really think about how far those routes go. And so I envisioned these routes going for miles and miles and miles and miles miles miles. And so I sucked in all that air from the just get I got goosebumps thinking about and then I exhaled all the negative shipped from my body back out into those roots. And here's a funny story. Well, not funny might when my dad passed away. I ended up going for a hike up in north van. And I got started getting an anxiety attack and I'm like, holy shit. What am I going to do? There's no I'm in bumfuck nowhere. There's nobody around me. I'm thinking what am I looked at the trees and I went okay, I started thinking is my dad as my dad ever been here? If he has maybe the trees have heard conversations. I know that sounds so crazy. But I then it's like Mel Robbins who I love. Yeah, the 54321 rule. Go there. Start doing things there. start shifting your thoughts. Look up the 54321 rule. Use that and work with that fishermen friends, I carry fishermen friends everywhere I go. Rescue Remedy. I love Rescue Remedy. Bach flower thing I lozenges, I take them. Magnesium is another thing. It's beautiful what you can do with your mind. And remember anxiety, panic attacks only last a matter of oh, maybe maybe two minutes. But even if you have to take those baby steps like I did, like if I had to go somewhere I would pinpoint hospitals. I would literally point in you know, okay, there's a hospital here. There's a hospital, there's a hospital, and then it got to there's a fire hole here. There's a fire. And then it was okay. There's a vet's office, you know? And then finally I got to Okay, well, there's a gas station. You know, I can pull into that gas station, even if they think I'm batshit crazy and say I'm having a meltdown. Yes. Yeah. Just making those safety nets for yourself. Get on the phone. Call people. Yeah, get your mind off of it. So call call call out of control. Yeah, just fishermen, friends, peppermint, anything, gum, anything that takes your mind off of that, you know, the sweaty palms, the you know, that feeling of you're not in control, because anxiety is all about not being in control. Although, although people with anxiety. If something were to happen to you, I would know exactly what to do and how to do it for you. Yes, but we don't know how to do it for ourselves. Yeah, and the other thing with anxiety is that it's all based on that. Hi. So if you've had a lot of things happen in your life where you have felt out of control. You go into this, holding it, suppressing it like that zit that finally explodes. So, when my husband passed away when I was five and a half months pregnant, I went into control mode. I'm like, oh, Kate. Well, the casket are over here. The pictures are over here. Yep. Up. Yeah, I was in control. Yeah, there was no problem. Instead of melting down and going, like, if I could do this, oh, my God, I went into control mode. Yeah, if I didn't do that, that was my body saying, Okay, if you don't do this, or my brain, you're gonna lose your shit. Yeah. Yep. Go, you know, we do whatever we have to do. To do.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Yeah, that makes. And I think that anxiety is a mechanism in which we can stretch and grow ourselves. Right. It's your body's way of saying there's something to pay attention to. There's something deeper going on here that you're not seeing. Right. And so it you know, is it a friend or foe? Well, you know, it can be both right. And I think it's up to us how we leverage that. So Jennifer, I, we've flown through our time today. Yeah. It's been great. It has been great. It's been great. You've given us some some good things to work forward with anxiety as well. And the one final piece that I feel compelled to share with the audience is that what I really find is helpful for me, is I asked my anxiety if it's mine or not. I love that I've been finding that sometimes it's not mine. So this morning, I had a lot of anxiety. And I felt like I didn't want to be here. Like I felt like almost suicidal as it were, from like, I'm, I'm pretty happy things are pretty good. I had a call with somebody that was coming an hour later, I didn't realize what was going on for them. And they had been there, they had attempted suicide a couple times, oh, gee, got on the phone with them. I was like, Oh, this is where that anxiety was coming from, or those thoughts were coming from because we're very empathic beings, we pick up on those things. And so I just want to remind people that's not always their own. And so sometimes is asking the question can get us Oh, okay, this isn't mine, okay, I'm just gonna carry on or whatever. So it can be enough to shift us. And the final thing is that when we trust in our God, mind, our higher self, knowing that it's doing the work, knowing that it's got things under control there, then we can start to surrender into that space of like, oh, wait, I don't need to be in control, because this superpower is in control anyways. And so that also has been a helpful piece for me. So I just wanted to share that with the audience. Jennifer, this is so much fun. I just, I have I'm thinking of people as you're talking, like, Oh, I know, someone that could really benefit from working with Jennifer. So our audience, keeps that in mind as they're listening to you as well. And just be real, be real. Just be real, be be your true self. You know, and I think that there's so like you said, it's so confusing, because there's so much going on out there. But we do know, in our hearts, we do have the ability to discern, you know, we have we have this truth within us. That is for us to uncover. It's not out there. You know, it is within us. And I think that's really, such a big part of what you do is helping them to discover who they are their inner truth. And I think it's powerful work. So thank you so much forJennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, thank you. Oh, my It's a journey. It's a journey. It's a journey.DeeAnne Riendeau:
But you know, spirit called you obviously, because of this oddity. You know, that anxiety was almost like, hey, Jennifer, here's your here's your career.Jennifer Vauthrin:
This is what I'm saying. It's a gift and peep everybody has that gift no matter if it's anxiety for them depression for them anger, drugs, work, whatever it is. It's a journey. Use it,DeeAnne Riendeau:
U se it take leverage it, you know, get the goodness out of it, right. Yeah. Perfect. Jennifer, where can go out you I know we do. Where can people learn about you? Where can they access information? Do you have anything that you can share?Jennifer Vauthrin:
Yeah, they can go to my website, which is www.Soulutionscounselling.com. There. I'm on social media, Instagram, Tik Tok Facebook. If people want to be anonymous, I find that really important too. I respect that. So whatever you know, you'll find my email address. You can do whatever works best for you. I'm here to serve you. Awesome and have fun doing it.DeeAnne Riendeau:
Yeah. I love that it should be like, people going to counseling all the time, like, Oh, but I think counseling with you, it'd be like, Hey, can't wait to seeJennifer Vauthrin:
we have a lot of fun. We do. I have a lot of fun with my clients. I have great clients. We have a lot of fun. And yeah, it's not always fun. There's tears. There's all this, but you know what we get through it? Yeah,DeeAnne Riendeau:
I think it's amazing. And we'll be sure to put that contact information in the show notes. And I'm gonna go back to that breath video that you talked about, Oh, 54321. And we'll add those in the shownotes. So that you guys listening will have access to those extra two. I love it. I love it. Jennifer, thank you so much for coming on the show. It was a joy to say, listen to you and share in the space. So thankJennifer Vauthrin:
Oh, thank you. Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to talk to everybody. I'm so happy that we've been able to do that and shed some light. Me too. Me too. Right. Hopefully they'll jump on with you one day and have a podcast as well or me. Right? Yeah, right. Yeah, we'd love to do that. We should have people from who's listened to this. Come on, and do podcasts have their own experiences, right? Would that not be cool? That'd be super cool. You know, it's through more sharing, more sharing more sharing for everybody. Right? Yeah. That's how we learn. That's how we learn. Okay. All right, girlDeeAnne Riendeau:
And have her Have a great one. Bye. Okay.Jennifer Vauthrin:
Bye, everyone. Take care. Cheers.